Shopping, parties, baking, Christmas programs, breakfast with Santa, seeing the light show, wrapping presents, decorating the tree, putting up lights, moving that damn elf every night…. It’s easy to forget why we are doing all of this. Let’s face it, the holidays are stressful.
There are so many reasons for stress this time of year. There are family dynamics that come up that haven’t been dealt with since last year. Maybe you come from a divorced family, or you have a sibling who isn’t talking to anyone, or a loved one that has passed away, or your family is across the county or world that you won’t see. Maybe your stress is financial. Possibly you lost your job, got your hours cut, lost your home. It’s hard to explain to your kids why Santa isn’t bringing them as many presents as the other kids in their class. Or maybe you’re just way to busy with all of your commitments that you don’t have any time to enjoy your family. You’re spending so much time helping here, and planning that event, and attending this party, that you are running yourself exhausted. And then there is the stress us women put on ourselves to do everything “perfect”. Her house is bigger and it’s decorated better, that’s why she can throw a party and I can’t. How can she get thru the Holidays without gaining 10 pounds? Listen up, there is no super-mom! Just because your friend and her kids did breakfast with Santa while your family stayed home in their pj’s watching cartoons does not make you a bad mom.
We can’t control all the people and crazy stuff going on around us. What we can control is how we view it. No matter who you are, we all have stressful shit to deal with this time of year. Don’t let it drag you down! Put your focus on what’s really important and what matters to you. Make your own happy memories!