My Life is Turned Upside Down

My husband came home today with news that his company is shutting it’s doors next week.  What does that mean for our family?  I don’t know!

My husband’s company is a family business started by his Grandfather over 60 years ago. Currently owned and run by his father and his 2 uncles (3 brothers).  My hubby has been working at the company since he was 15.  He started working summers in the packing and shipping department.  He moved his way through every department of the company because the plan was he would own the company one day.  He has been working full time at the company for over 8 years.  So this is not just a job loss.  It is a devastating loss of a family legacy.  A legacy that he had hoped his whole life of carrying on one day.

At this moment we are faced with so many life decisions.  What does he really want to do with his life?  What career path does he want to take?  Where do we want to live?  Since we are starting over, I guess we could start over anywhere right?

We have our 2 kids to think about.  I have wanted to spend most of the day crying but I’ve acted normal so they don’t think anything is different.  I don’t want to create any instability or fear in them.  I want to protect them and keep them innocent.

So what do we do?  I’ve always dreamed of living somewhere warm.  Do we relocate and hope for the best?  Do we stay here where we have more relationships?  He has a dream of starting his own IT company with web design.  I want to be positive and encouraging for my husband, but I’m so stressed out and scared.  Tell me we are not the only ones that have hit this cross road?!

At this moment the only thing we can do is stay positive and see this as an opportunity.  Hopefully we will do something great that we wouldn’t have done before.

Signing off as- hopeful and scared it’s making me nauseous!

Throwback Thursday style!  Me and the hubs in 2005 at Universal Studios!

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23 thoughts on “My Life is Turned Upside Down

  1. My husband and I had our second child in 2012. 2 months after our second little man was born my husband was laid off from his job of 10 years. We lost our home and it turned out home upside down, but when we hit rock bottom God picked us up and we are putting one foot in front of the other. It was so hard, but we made it and you guys will do the same❤ stay strong and pray often my dear. God will work even when we feel everything feels like its falling a part❤

  2. So sorry to hear this, but have faith that this will all fall into place and work out in the end. Only you and your husband know what is right for YOUR family, it will work out.

  3. Stay strong! I’m a firm believer that everything happens for a reason and something wonderful is coming in your direction. Stay positive and good things will happen. Take care of yourself and your family!

  4. Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end. I have walked in your shoes just this past year. My family has been hit, knocked and completely beaten, but as Amber said, God will pick you up, dust you off and put everything into place. God has already written every day of your life in His book. He knew exactly when that setback would occur, and the good news is He has already arranged a comeback. Before you had the problem, God already had the solution. Prayers for your strength and sanity <3

  5. I am so sorry to hear this and I am sending love and prayers to your family. When my fiancé and I first moved to MS for my graduate school (we now live in OH), he was unemployed for almost 2 years. It was hard and we went through our entire savings but now we’re doing better and we also treasure each other and everything we have even more. Do what’s best for your family and stay positive. We love you.

  6. Hi! I just recently started following your blog and when I read this post, it felt like a mirror image of my life! December 2012 my husband came home and said that his families business was shutting its doors. My husband, his brother and father worked the family business that had been open since 1986. I understand your husbands loss as my husband went through the same thing. I understand your fear, we too have 2 children, and I can remember trying to hold it together for our kids sake. I am not going to lie it was a tough couple of months, trying to make sense of what happened, grieve your loss, and not knowing what your future holds for your family. We too had to make a decision to stay where we were or to move. We had also wished to move to warmer climates…..we had 5 very uncertain months, my husband got a job and we moved to Florida! Going through the hard time we never imagined we could be as happy as we are now. Our children were nervous to move but they have flourished since we have been here. I don’t want to say don’t worry because you will, but try to stay positive. I firmly believe that things happen for a reason, you don’t know what that is going through it, but it will make sense eventually. Have faith and know that you will get through this. Great adventures are ahead for you and your family. Stay positive and have faith! you will come out the other end.

  7. So sorry to hear that! But I agree with everyone else, everything happens for a reason, God brings beautiful things from terrible situations. Stay strong. Your family will be in my thoughts and prayers ♡ Also, love the throwback Thursday picture, you and your hubby are adorable :)

  8. As you set out on life’s road
    unsure of the path you’ll go,
    the most important thing you can do
    is to always be true to “you”

  9. I am so sorry. Please try n not worry. The 1 thing I have learned in my 56 yrs is everything really does happen for the best. Even when it is scary n stressful in the end you realize why it happened n u end of grateful it did. Maybe u can move closer to your family now. I’m praying for God to provide for u n your family n for him to show your husband what he wants to do now. God Bless sweetie.

  10. I can relate. believe me! In 2007, when the economic crisis was beginning, my husband’s business failed. Our entire life was based on that business. I had my 2 year old, and one on the way, living in a big beautiful house that we could no longer afford, we lost our cars, we had to sell practically everything. Slowly, my husband did small contract work, we moved into a small rental, rented a car until we could buy one again. We started over completely. The thing about life is there are so many chances to restart, rebuild, and rethink. You will surprise yourself when you get through times of struggle like this. These are the things that make us wise and strong. Eventually, you will find your place again and do it better and this time with a stronger sense of self and a victory under your belt. Good luck to you and your family. You will make it through this. I promise.

  11. I agree with everyone’s post you and your family will come out triumphant out of this tough time. Stay positive and have faith that something greater awaits you. I know that was our case and we are doing great now.

  12. Dearest Rachel,
    This post absolutely broke my heart! I will be praying for you and your family. Having gone through this scenario, the only advice I can give you, is to completely support your husband. I’m sure you absolutely agree, but as the days went on with no job, I felt myself feeling the pressure and wanted to place blame on him. This of course was not fair. We made it through, and because we did it as a team, we came out a better couple. Keep your chin up, and hope for the best.

  13. I’m sorry to hear this and I can’t even imagine what you’re going through. Things will work out for the best though, I’m sure! Sometimes bad things happen so that better things can come along. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

  14. Move to FL to be with your sister!!! remember that one door closes for something even better to open. GOD has a plan for you and your family and it is GREAT! I hate this is happening for you HOWEVER seize the opportunity and do something that you, your husband and your family has always dreamed of doing!!!! praying for your and your family.

  15. Sorry to hear this, not knowing what the future holds is so scary and stressful. I know the feeling! You are already doing better than you think by protecting your kids! I hope you guys find what will be best for your family and will be happy with the change. Gather strength from your family and friends really helps in times like this. Thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family!

  16. Thank you everyone for your encouraging words! I cried like a baby reading everything you all had to say. I feel so much love from you! Thank you!!!!!

  17. Dear Rachel, I am so sorry for what you are going through. My husband lost his job of 10 years last year. The unknown scared us more then anything. We had a home and two children to take care of. I am a stay at home mom which we all know has no income! So when it finally hit us like a ton of bricks we decided there are two ways we could look at this situation. We could a) totally freak out and look at the negative or we could b) take this as “everything happens for a reason” and live each day as it comes and not look ahead so much. Luckily we have a great support system from our family and friends which just by you and your sisters blogs I can tell you do as well. Their were nights when my husband and I would lie awake at night freaking out that we would not be able to keep our home or be able to afford the health insurance and the what ifs would make their ways into our heads. What if one of the kids get really sick or our one of our cars needs a lot of work or well you get my idea. We immediately would stop ourselves. We spoke honestly with one another and that is what got us through. I told my husband “you are a great provider, amazing husband and father something great will come your way, It may take some time but it will come. Almost a year later a job fell into my husbands hands and he loves it!! Try to stay positive. There is a reason your lives have taken this path. Just go with it and be each others voice. When one is freaking out the other can calm them! You will get through this!! Something great is going to happen for you!! Sending lots of positive vibes you way!!!

  18. I’m sorry to hear this, and like the others everything happens for a reason, this is a crisis but in Spanish Idioms said: “after the storm comes the calm”. Have faith and everything gradually be overcome.

  19. Hello! My husband lost his job last week. It’s been very hard as a women and mom we do get worried. But let me tell you something about us we are a young married couple with two infants (1 year old and a 2 year old) living in Texas. What I’ve learned is o trust in God. god is the provider not us, jobs, or anything. Let’s have faith and believe in him, he never fails.

  20. Your family is my thoughts. I’ve worked for aObGyn for 16 1/2 years. He just told me he’s retiring. Yikes. I think I would love love to get my Esthetician lic. like you. Maybe this has opened the door for me.

  21. Yikes. I am just catching up with emails so I spotted this late. I am so sorry for what you are having to go through. You are not alone. I am not in this situation at present, but I have been. You do get through it. I don’t know how we did and you probably won’t either as it happens but then one day you will look back and realize, yep, we did it and yet you still may not be sure how. Life is quite amazing that way. I won’t bore you with all the details of our struggles, but never give up hope. You wake up each day and you go to bed each night and remember that you are both doing the best you can, and then be grateful for the bed you have to crawl into. It can be so comforting. Thinking of you so much during this time. My best to you!

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