Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life

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I remember when I first found out I was pregnant with Sofia.  Everywhere I went all I saw were pregnant women and babies in strollers.  I swear, every woman in America was pregnant or had a newborn baby!  Then another time, I was thinking of cutting my long hair into a short cute haircut.  And again… when I stepped outside my house, turned on my tv or looked at a magazine, every woman had a short cute haircut.

Whatever occupies our thoughts, that’s what we notice all around us.  Creating the life you want first starts with what you think about and what your attitude is.  Whatever is going on inside your head will turn into action.  And those actions will determine your tomorrow.  A bad attitude can ruin a moment or a day.  But when a bad attitude turns into actions, it can ruin months or years of your life.  A positive attitude will constantly see opportunity and the glass half full, creating a beautiful life.

A few months ago I was having a bad attitude and complaining about something going on in my life.  It was something that had been happening on and off for months, and each time it happened I got all upset and complained about it.  Someone in my life gave me a hard reality check (which I did not like in the moment), this person said: everything going on right now is because of decisions you have made.  You choose this, and then choose that.  You may not have known it would turn out this way.  But your life right now is all from choices you have made.

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At first that really pissed me off and I didn’t want to accept it.  But then after my stubbornness went away and I let it digest, I realized how true that is and also how powerful that is!

Accepting this means I am the only one responsible for creating my life and I don’t get to blame anyone else for my problems.  I will admit, in the moment it does feel good to blame someone else for that shitty thing that is going on.  But all you are doing is giving that person the power to determine the direction of your life.  By blaming someone else for your problems you are giving them power over you.

Fully grabbing onto this concept has put me back in the drivers seat of my own life.  I get to take the wheel and determine what direction I’m going.  If I don’t like my current situation, I can’t go back and change today.  But with a positive attitude and a clear mind, I can make choices today that will change my tomorrow for the better.

And that’s the really exciting part!  Being fully responsible for my life and everything in it, gives me the power to determine where my life is going.  And honey, it’s bright future :)

XO, Rachel

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